Needy, greedy and adulterous men

The 'other woman' is not the problem in your marriage; she is merely a symptom that something is wrong with it.

Of course, it's the most convenient argument to blame the 'other woman', when the affair is uncovered and believe that the 'immoral, slutty, husband snatching woman' should find her own man!!! However, if you look at the situation objectively, without personal prejudice, it's the man who broke his vows, not the 'other woman'. It was the man who succumbed to temptation, or for that matter, could have well been courting and cajoling the woman into it with sob stories and dreams of a happy life together. But the issue here is 'Why?'

When you know you are breaking your vows, when you know that it's wrong, illegal and religiously considered a 'sin', when you know you could lose your spouse and children because of it, why on earth would you cheat in your marriage? I feel adultery is an act by either the needy, or the greedy. If the adulterous husband is needy, instead of typically condemning the 'other woman', thank her for the reality check and work on what changes should be implemented to correct the faltering marriage.

However, greedy adulterous men are akin to greedy politicians who can't resist a juicy chunk of change, or demand the same with flagrant disregard to their duties, obligations, role, position and commitments. If you can justify one, you can justify the other too and should be no compassion for either.

So many wives look the other way, terrified of capsizing their marital boat as it voyages into stormy seas and justify unhappy realities with, "all men do it", or "at least he comes home to me", or simply blame the 'other woman'. Such wives are solely responsible for their sorry marital realities because if they don't believe in being given respect and loyalty, or justify the lack of it, they will never have it.

I'm an unhappily married housewife. My husband loves me and our two children a lot, he has got involved with other women in the past but not seriously. Recently, he got seriously involved with his secretary and even though I shouted at her and got her fired their affair continues. My relatives have told me she has done black magic on him. I cry myself to sleep every night. How do I get rid of her?
It seems that you are blaming everyone and everything for the mess in your marriage except for the person that caused the problems. Your husband! You have almost glorified him by portraying him as a loving man and victim of sorcery. Change your perspective immediately. Today it's his secretary, tomorrow it will be his business associate. How many women will you keep fighting with? His liaisons will keep changing but his habits will remain the same unless confronted, questioned and put a firm end to. If his waywardness is offensive to you and you are unhappy, then give him an ultimatum you would live up to! Then it'll be clear as to how much he really loves you and the kids.

I'm a 23-year-old girl and physically attracted to my boss who is in her late 30s. She is married with two children. She never appreciates my hard work and doesn't care about me at all as an employee. My problem is, I'm obsessed with her. I have mixed feelings for her. This is affecting me a lot mentally. Please help.
You are reacting on physical, emotional and professional levels. The part of you that desires her physically and emotionally, loves her, but her detachment as a boss and disregard for your professional contributions irks you. The fact is that she has a well settled personal life and is juggling work along with the responsibility of two children. It's just too unhealthy an environment for you personally and professionally so find another job and use the distance to clear your head and heart.

I'm a 31-year-old man, I met a married woman almost a year back. She is 36. We met on a train journey and she somehow managed to get my number. Later we began talking on phone for hours and decided to meet. I don't know what happened suddenly; I called her and told that I won't be able to meet her and that I don't want to have any relationship. Also, I deleted her number from my cell phone. Since then she never called me. But as days passed, I was not able to forget her and my feelings for her returned. Now since 11 months, I am trying to find her but I am not able to do so. What should I do?
Well, if she's reading this column, I'm sure she'll call you if she's still interested! Apart from that my advice would be to steer clear of married women. Adultery is messy, emotional, painful and completely unnecessary especially given that there are so many unmarried wonderful women out there. Leave her in fantasy land and find someone suitable for a loving hassle-free reality.

Two years back, I met this girl, we started going around. But I made a terrible mistake... I never gave her or our relationship importance. But yes, I wanted to marry her. I had introduced her to my parents and my entire family. She was very comfortable. Last week, I told my mother that I love her and want to marry her, my mom was very happy, but I got a shock when the girl told me that she didn't want to marry me because she doesn't feel anything for me now. I keep calling and texting her, but she is not replying. Help!
Give her time to digest your proposal and sort her feelings for you. Hopefully, she will be able to rekindle her feelings, or perhaps your love and persistence will thaw her emotions that have gone into deep freeze. If despite your best efforts the magic has dissolved, I think, it's fair for both to move on. Just because it felt right once upon a time is not reason enough to commit to and suffer a lacklustre marriage for the rest of your lives.

Why women are jealous and men don’t cry.

What is it that makes us so complicated? Why don't men cry? Why do women get jealous? The answers have a psychological side to it..
It's a common question. Why men don't cry? The question goes into the same category of questions like; Why women get jealous? Why men can't commit? Why women can't stop talking? Oh well, we have our differences and it's the psychology one has to delve into to realize some very interesting facts about men and women. In reality, we are very simple people with very complicated emotions. And hence, we've been at each other’s necks forever.
Men and women have a set of emotions they are "expected" to deliver. Women are weepy, emotional, sentimental and cry all the time. Men are intense, angry, stubborn, possessive and moody. A nagging woman is quite common but a man drowning his sorrows in tears a rarity. There is a copious amount of male ego involved here. Psychologists say that "Emotions live in the background of a man's life and the foreground of a woman's". Food for thought? It has always been said that women are more in touch with their emotions and that actually is true.

However, that does not mean that men aren't capable of expressing. In fact, in a study of married couples, husbands proved to as tuned to their spouse's stress levels and were also capable of offering support. Psychologist, Kiran Nair says that the connection between the left brain and the right is much greater in women. "The left brain holds logic and the right holds all your emotions. Women are capable of shifting between the 2 sides. Men aren't so much," says Kiran. An interesting insight into the never ending battle between men and women, is Khushwant Singh's Women, Sex, Love and Lust.
If you're looking for a debate on love, lust, women and the many nuances of the very same then this is a book you will love reading. Throw in a generous amount of K Singh's humor and wit and you get a book that's worth picking up. Singh skillfully analyzes the fine dividing line between obscenity, pornography and erotica, describing sex from Chaturbhani and his ideas on what the composite Indian woman is. Another book is, Men are from mars and Women are from Venus. The book gives us some insights about the do's and don'ts in a relationship. In general, men and women have their ideas about a relationship quite mixed up. It's not about sacrifice. But rather, it’s about understanding. "You never listen to me"... "You never spend time with me" are women's favorite dialogues and "I don't want to talk about it"---- "can we change the topic?" are among a men's favorites’.

Things you should do for your woman

If you're in a relationship, make sure you are doing these things.
Let's admit it. Everyone enjoys hearing nice things about themselves. And if you know how to really compliment a woman, don't let anything stop you! You don't have to go overboard and compliment her for everything she does or says. Even subtle ones work just fine.

Most women have good memories, so chances are she's not likely to forget it in a hurry.

How many times have you offered to help your woman with the housework, run some errands or help her with her presentation? Even if you find it cumbersome, offering to help will earn you a lot of brownie points!

When was the last time you surprised your woman? You don't have to organise a lavish dinner, take her out on a fancy date or a shopping spree. Women are grateful for even small tokens of gestures.

Tell a woman how much she means to you and you'll melt her heart. Most men start to take their partners for granted after some time. Don't let that happen to you.

Unless you want to get beaten up, never ever make the mistake of comparing your woman to your ex. Women are very touchy when they get compared to other women, and making the cardinal sin of comparing your ex to her will not get you anywhere.

Habits of women that annoy men

Her hair blocks the shower drain every now and then, she would always crib how you never listen to her -men just don't like when women do these things. Right?

But, there are many more, and novelist Giles Coren sheds light on the top ten habits of women that annoy men the most, reports the Daily Mail.

Never ordering a dessert, then eating mine
"Ooh no, I'm full. I couldn't possibly eat any pudding, I'm stuffed," she says. And when my treacle pudding arrives she would have one spoon after another and finish the whole thing.

Failing to grasp that she moults
Every now and then her hair would block the shower plughole for which she would say, "That's not necessarily mine!"

Never packing enough books, or even any books, for a holiday
She'll make a huge fuss about capsule wardrobes but would never pack a book. Just a couple of magazines for the plane, which she leafs through in four minutes after which she grabs the fat thriller you've been looking forward to reading for months. She would hog it for a week, then leaves it on a boat when she's finished and says: "It was rubbish anyway."

Refusing to offer an opinion when asked for one
Which is so very different from not having an opinion. So if we're thinking of going out for dinner, for example, and you say: "What do you fancy, Chinese? Italian? A nice bit of sushi?" She'll say: "I don't mind, whatever you feel like." And when you book an Italian restaurant, she would say, "You know perfectly well that I hate Italian food."

Constantly saying, "The thing that women find most attractive in a man is a sense of humor"
Which just isn't true. What women find attractive is tall, handsome, rich. That is what women find attractive. And that is all.

Giving up in the middle of every game
Chess or cribbage or tennis or croquet or absolutely anything - it happens the moment they go slightly behind and no longer look like winning.

Never being satisfied with a hotel room
When you arrive at your hotel after a long journey and flop yourself down on the bed, she'll stand in the middle of the room with her hands on her hips and say: "Well, this just won't do, it's supposed to have a view!" Then insist on seeing every single other room in the hotel, before actually deciding that the first room was fine, after all.

Thinking animals have feelings
"I feel so sorry for that puppy, it looked so sad, it really wanted us to take it home." No, it's a dog. It does not feel sadness. It feels only hunger and the need to foul the pavement outside my house. It does not feel sad, or rejected, or worthless or unwanted.

Always leaving some awful pop music station on top volume in the car when she was the last one to drive it
So that when you get in on a cold morning to go to work, and switch the radio on expecting to hear the mellifluous mutterings of the Today programmer, it instead blasts into shrieking life with some frightful oik bellowing rage into a voice-distorter over the sound of a huge drum kit being kicked down a hill by donkeys.

Making a huge fuss about how important it is that women players get the same Wimbledon prize money as male players
But then, when the tournament starts, she's only interested in watching the men, because they're sexy and the tennis is exciting, and doesn't watch even a second of the ladies, because it's boring and they grunt too much.

Things a girl wants but will NOT ask for!

1. Touch her waist.
2. Actually talk to her.
3. Share secrets with her.
4. Give her your jacket.
5. Kiss her slowly.

6. Hug her.
7. Hold her.
8. Laugh with her.
9. Invite her somewhere.
10. Hangout with her and your friends together.

11. Smile with her.
12. Take pictures with her.
13. Pull her onto your lap.
14. When she says she loves you more, deny it. Fight back.
15. When her friends say i love her more than you, deny it. Fight back and hug her tight so she can’t get to her friend . It makes her feel loved.

16. Always hug her and say I love you whenever you see her.
17. Kiss her unexpectedly.
18. Hug her from behind around the waist.
19. Tell her she is beautiful.
20. Tell her the way you feel about her.

21. Open doors for her, walk her to her car- it makes her feel protected, plus it never hurts to act like a gentleman.
22. Tell her she is your everything – only if you mean it.

23. If it seems like there is something wrong, ask her- if she denies something being wrong, it means SHE DOESN’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT- so just hug her
24. Make her feel loved.
25-kiss her in front of OTHER girls you know!!!!

26-don’t lie to HER.
27-Don’t cheat on her.
28-take her ANYWHERE she wants
29-txt message or call her in the morning and tell her have a good day at work {or school}, and how much you MISS her.
30-be there for her whenever she needs you, & even when she doesn’t need you, just be there so she will know that she can ALWAYS count on you.

31. Hold her close when she is cold so she can hold YOU too.
32. When you are ALONE hold her close and kiss her.
33. Kiss her on the CHEEK; (it will give her the hint that you want to kiss her).
34. While in the movies, put your arm around her and then she will automatically  put her head on your shoulder, then lean in and tilt her chin up and kiss her LIGHTLY.
35. Don’t EVER tell her to leave even jokingly or act like you are mad. If she is upset, comfort her.

36. When people DISS her, stand up for her.
37. Look deep into her EYES and tell her you love her.
38. Lay down under the STARS and put her head on your chest so she can listen to the steady beat of your heart, link your fingers together while you whisper to her as she rests her eyes and listens to you .
39. When walking next to each other grab her HAND.
40. When you hug her HOLD her in your arms as long as possible

41. Call or text her at night to wish her SWEET DREAMS.
42. COMFORT her when she cries and wipe away her tears.
43. Take her for LONG walks at night.
44. ALWAYS Remind her how much you love her.
45. Sit on top of her and tell her how much u love her and then bend down to her face and kiss her while sitting on her.

Seven IMPORTANT Steps to Get a Girlfriend:

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1) Do not set out to find a girlfriend!

If your priority is solely to get your itch scratched (sexually speaking), you're going to find that you'll scare off a LOT of people.

Your GOAL is not to get a girlfriend, even though you think it is. Your goal is not the END, it's simply the NEXT STEP in the process.

Your goal is to improve your social network - which is like creating a nice strong safety net.

It lowers your loneliness quotient, and it increases your ability to find a good woman in the long run.

A good investigator doesn't look directly for the criminal.

They look for the indicators and evidence that leads them to their most wanted.

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2) Adopt the attitude of the Interviewer...

QUALIFICATION, Qualification, qualification.

It's all about qualification, my friend. The only way you can maintain a strong and confident attitude out there is to be the chooser - not the chosen.

Think about the difference in these two people: The Interviewer and the Interviewee.

Between being the guy going in and kissing ass and selling yourself to the company to get a job, and being the guy who chooses from them.

If you've ever done the interviewing, you know what it's like. You feel like THE MAN with all the power. It's kind of a rush.

Well, the difference in mindset between the guy that goes out trying to get women interested in him and the guy that goes out to see if any women can impress him is like NIGHT and DAY.

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3) Become a Social Strategist...

Network the hell out of your life.

You need to really sit down and think about who you know, and who they know. And then start getting on their social calendars, one at a time.

Here's a technique that works like a champ. (It's something I'm going to be talking more about in my upcoming program coming in a few months.)

First, just connect with everyone in your network of friends.

Get together with them, have a drink or a lunch, and just reconnect. Make it a point to develop more of a rapport-connection with them, and then get them to think about you whenever they're holding a party or going to a party.

Say something like:

"Hey, this has been great catching up with you, John. By the way, I'm on this kick lately of just going out and socializing, and making sure all my friends have fun. So if you have any parties or social gatherings, drop me a line if you think it would be fun."

Give him your email, give him your cell phone and give him your facebook address. Better yet, have a card made up with JUST this information on it and your first name.

Ba-da-bing. You're now in his loop of social networking. From there, you just bust it out to the next level by making friends with people at every gathering you attend.

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4) Multiple Streams of Female Income

This is one of the core strategies of my method, and that is that you cannot afford to rely on any ONE method of meeting women. Mostly because if you fail to get that one method to work for you the way you want it to, you'll get blown out of the game, and you're socially dead in the water.

AND your attitude will suffer along with your success.

Dating is EXACTLY like owning stocks - you never put all your eggs in ONE basket. Back when the dot-com bust happened in 2001-2002, all the people who were heavily invested in technology stocks took a serious bath.

Universal rule: Diversify!

Spread your risk over a few good methods and you won't get burned.

(I just watched "Wall Street" again the other day, can you tell?)

Don't go too nuts, because you won't get good at any of them if you do too many, but just pick your top 5 - and then work them like dogs. That's how to get a girlfriend - and FAST.

My top picks?

- Speed dating

- Online dating

- Social networking

- Parties and social events

- Daytime approach

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5) Know what kind of a woman you really want.

You have to know the exact qualities you're looking for in order to choose a good woman. There are many traits you need to create a good relationship with her - especially if you want to keep her.

One thing you'll see that most pickup artists DO NOT have is the ability to keep a relationship going. They can pickup a woman in a bar, but if you ask them how to get a girlfriend - one that lasts - they'll just tell you to go take another class.

I've been in relationships that lasted from 30 minutes to 5 years, so I do know how to keep a good woman around.

First and foremost is to know WHAT you want, and sometimes that means...

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6) Date ENOUGH women to know what you really want.

A lot of guys don't date enough women to figure out the qualities that they really want.

In fact, I've never met a guy who dated a lot of women, and then said that he still wants the same things in a woman that he wanted when he first started.

After dating a bunch of women, you start to realize that many of the things you THOUGHT you wanted weren't as important as you thought. And you discover all-new things you really do need.

The big mistake most people (men and women) make is to be in a hurry to get into a relationship because they can't stand dating. It's so painful for these guys to be single that they fall into the first relationship that comes along.

And so they never develop dating skills, they just hope to find someone good before the bad women find them first.

But this is a lot like taking the first job you can get, just to get a job - even though you're not sure you're going to like it. Sure, you may have employment, but you'll just be miserable if you don't make a good choice. And eventually you'll either be fired or quit.

The same is DOUBLY true for women.

Choose poorly and you're going to be a hell of a lot more miserable IN a relationship than out of one.

Remember my universal rule: You're better off alone than with the wrong woman.

A woman has only one role in my life: To make me happier than I was without her. If she isn't doing that, she isn't what I want in a girlfriend.

And neither do you!


And here's the last rule that will guarantee you'll get a girlfriend in no time flat - IF you just use it.

If you want to know how to get a girlfriend - and how I've done it in my life without having to resort to mail-order brides, it's simply this:

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7) Get out there and meet as many people as you possibly can.

I've moved around the country and I've started my life over again 3 times. I moved from upstate New York, to Washington, DC, to Kansas City, to San Francisco. Each time I had to make all new friends.

I learned something that has made all the difference between being lonely and being socially prosperous, and that's this:

If you meet a bunch of people,

... some you will never see again.

Some you will turn into acquaintances.

Some you will turn into friends.

Some you will do business with.

Some you will turn into girlfriends.

But the more people you meet, the more you get of every kind. It's a statistical and social CERTAINTY.

Just like the "Sales Funnel," where you put a hundred people in at the top, and only a few come out the bottom as buyers, so it is in your social life.

It's the most obvious law of numbers there is, and it simply demands that you just get off your ass right now and go meet some new people.

And here's the amazing thing - it doesn't matter HOW you meet them!

Nor does it matter WHO you meet. You can meet old women who will set you up with their daughters or even their grand-daughters.

You'll meet women who introduce you to their cool guy friends, who will then introduce you to an ex-girlfriend or a cousin or a sister's best friends' nanny, who could be your next girlfriend.

You simply DO NOT KNOW how you will get your next girlfriend.

If you want to know my advice on how to get a girlfriend, that's it. Pure and simple.

Treat it like a life-puzzle that you have to figure out. If you can just meet a few people each week, your life will be filled with an abundance that will ASTONISH you.

It will amaze you.

I guarantee it...

If you want to learn the core skills of pickup and attracting women, you owe it to yourself to take a look at my latest fast-start program. Even if the stock market is crazy and unpredictable, one thing is still the same: You can improve your skills with women in just a few hours - and for less that it would cost you for your next date.

The one sure fire way to keep a woman attracted to you is to show her an Alpha Male that has the confidence and attitude that women want...

how to chat with a girl

So – let’s say you add a girl to your friends on Facebook, and she accepts your Friends Request. Great! An accepted Friends Request is a good sign. Most girls will ignore you if they never met you in real life before. But more about getting your friends request accepted later. Now that you’re friends, you might be wondering what the hell should you do next?

Send her a message. Or try to initiate contact in some other form – and observe how she reacts. But, even better – before you do anything – wait a day or two after she’s accepted your Friends Request. In case she initiates contact first – you’ve got another sign that she’s interested. Remember: Girls that don’t give a fuck about you – would NOT contact you. They would simply ignore your existence.

On the other hand, if she makes no contact – you should make a move. You have a better chance at scoring if you shoot than if you do nothing. Keep in mind though that it’s pointless to chase after a girl that isn’t interested in you. So make it your goal to figure out whether she’s interested AT ALL. Yes – theoretically you CAN change her opinion about you even if she doesn’t like you on a first impression, but it’s much easier to pick up a girl on Facebook that’s already interested in you to a certain extent. Anyway – make contact. Don’t poke her, or comment on her picture with a retarded compliment. That’s what 99% of other chumps do. And being the same as everyone else won’t help you get noticed.

A simple way to start talking to a girl on Facebook is to send her a message when she gets on Facebook’s Chat. Try with a smiley, or just a hello – see how she reacts. “Do I know you?” – “No, I guess, but you seemed interesting so I thought I’d add you  ”, and let the ball start rolling. Since she’ll probably start checking out your Facebook profile now – she’ll make a decision whether you’re worth getting to know better or not. That’s why it’s important that you have your profile set up in a way that conveys positive stuff about you. You want to have a profile that will make girls WONDER. You have to make them feel like they want to find out more about you. Put in some mystery, intrigue etc. be UNIQUE in a positive way – not a clown kind of way.

So – let’s say she reacts positively and starts talking to you. What are you going to talk about? Talking with Facebook girls isn’t as complicated as it might seem right now. Here’s a simple tip: DO SOMETHING. “Do something?” Yes – do SOMETHING. Anything with your life. If you sit at home and do nothing – you’ll have nothing to talk about. The best way to have what to talk about with girls is by having something going on in your life. No – your JOB is NOT interesting (except if you’re a surfer or whatever the hell) – don’t BRAG about what you have and stop TRYING to be cool. Be real. Real works. If you have a dog – and she asks you “what have you been doing lately?”, you reply with a “I just got home from walking my dog, and now I’m chilling at home a bit, studying… you?”.

She’ll immediately ask you what kind of a dog do you have etc. and if she likes dogs to – there – you’ll have something to talk about and connect on a better level.

How to date a girl who has a boyfriend

How painful it is to get attracted to a girl and find out that she already has a boyfriend. But what if she develops interest in you without you even proposing her? Yes it’s possible but only when you follow the right strategy.
The first step is to get close to her. How? You need to make some personal contact with her. It can be something like sitting next to her in office or if you don’t work together then you can visit her frequently. Meet her during lunch time or chat with her online, call her for work etc. But don’t let her know your intentions. Show her your innocence and keep the process a little slow so that the connection is developed over a period of time and not suddenly. If you feel she is just not interested in you, then just leave her path and move on in life.

Keep flirting with her while chatting online or face to face. Girls generally like guys with good sense of humour. So make sure you make her laugh and keep her interested in your talks. The connection should be such that when you initiate chat or face to face conversation, she is unable to avoid you.

Keep telling her playfully that you want to make her your girlfriend. For example, say, “I wish you were my girlfriend! Then I would have asked you to stay back with me with full rights.” She will laugh on it but she will think about it later. Make yourself someone important in her life.

While trying to get close to her, remember not to enter her friend zone. Therefore it is important to keep telling her how much you like her (but playfully). Do not become the best friend who offers his shoulder to cry on but the one who never makes her cry. You can even say this to her, “I don’t want to be the one who wipes your tears, I want to be the one who will never make you cry.” Remember not to show your feelings always. She must enjoy your company, if you show your emotional side to her, she will get confused between you and her boyfriend and eventually she may start ignoring you.

Once both of you get close you can start with your real strategy. Ask her about her boyfriend to know how she reacts when she takes her name. Does it bring a smile on her face? If yes, then she is too involved with her.

Now you have to make your move, smart move. Try saying something negative about your ex-girlfriend, like “I just hated it when she was jealous of my female friends….I am so happy I no longer have to face her possessiveness….” She will be forced to think about her partner if he behaves in the same way. If she shows some unusual expressions, ask her what’s wrong. Convince her that you will not cross your limits. She might end up sharing similar problem with you. But if she is too happy with her boyfriend, she might defend your ex-girlfriend.

Do not show aggressiveness and politely tell her how the nature of your ex-girlfriend hampered your progress, your career. Do not expect her to react immediately. Give her some time to analyze her boyfriend. She will definitely think about it. So just wait and watch.

Be friends with her good friends and make them like you. Once they become your fans, they might ask the girl to get hooked with you. Remember suggestions from friends are always taken seriously.

Once she analyses her relationship and becomes more close to you, she is likely to break-up from her boyfriend and come to you. But here is a warning- If she could leave her boyfriend for you, she might leave you as well for someone else. Just be careful.

How to propose girls

Are you nervous on how to propose to your girl? Well, don’t be. Here are some tips that can help you in knowing the best ways in which you can propose to a girl. The one thing that you should keep in mind while proposing is that girls are very sensitive and every girl are different from the other. So make sure that your way of proposing to the girl should be unique in your own way, and should be according to the temperament of the girl. 

Some of the best ideas for proposing a girl are mentioned below. Try them out and win the heart of your lady. 

1. Be yourself. This is the first rule that you need to get into your mind when you think of proposing a girl. Do not overdo your proposal. Keep it simple yet special and sweet. Be who you are, and in your own special way say those three golden words. 

2. Another old way of proposing is going down on your knees with a red rose in your hand. Though this is an old way of proposing, this still goes down the line and is bound to impress any girl.

3. Make her feel special by taking her out for a quiet romantic dinner. Prepare well and have her favorite dishes ordered for the two of you. Have her favorite music playing in the background and find a nice romantic moment to propose her. She will definitely be moved by the effort that you would have taken for arranging the special dinner.

4. You can get a banner prepared with the word I Love You and have it displayed outside her house or in the workplace. It is advised that you do not use her real name on the banner, but use the endearment that you generally use to call her.

5. Take her to the place where you met each other for the first time. Recreate the same moment and then propose to her. It will definitely move her and get embossed on her memory for lifetime.

6. If it is possible for you and you can afford it, have your proposal written on the sky. You can contact the skywriting company and have it arranged when the two of you are together.

7. You can make arrangement for asking your neighbors to put off their lights and have the windows lit up in the words I Love You. Take her to the balcony and open her eyes when everything is set. She will definitely love this.

8. You can drive to the beach in the evening and with some romantic soft music playing. Just as the sun is going down whisper the three words that she is longing to hear in her ears. This will definitely make her melt.

9. If both of you are the adventurous kinds, then you can plan an early morning trek to a nearby place, and when the sun is rising go on your knees and propose her on top of the summit.

10. If you want to make it dramatic and funny, then you can have a water gun and hold it out on her and say you are under arrest, and when she is all shocked and panicky then say for stealing my heart and say out I Love You.

11. Pick the Right Time
First of all, you need to know for certain that you’re at the right point in your relationship to be proposing. A marriage proposal is not a magic salve that will fix any serious disagreements between you and your girlfriend. Don’t pick a time when she is under a lot of stress, or when either of you is going through a serious rough patch in life. You both must be absolutely convinced that you truly want to spend the rest of your lives together.

12. Stay True to Yourself
It seems tempting to try and impress your girlfriend with a flashy proposal, but keep in mind that she loves you for you! Proposing to her in a way that comes from deep within your heart, rather than attempting to dazzle her with a contrived situation, is what will really win her over. You want the proposal to reflect all the things that are real and wonderful about your relationship.

13. Bring the Romance
Although you want your proposal to be genuine, it’s also going to be one of the most romantic things you ever do, so it’s a great idea to play that up. A lot of the traditional techniques are still winners: a romantic restaurant, classical music, getting down on one knee. Other people think it’s more romantic to announce their proposal during a public event like a sports game. Whatever sounds the best to you, be sure to plan ahead so that the moment won’t be interrupted.

14. Consider Her Feelings
Your girlfriend might be quiet and shy, in which case she might be mortified if you proposed to her with a huge song and dance. Similarly, if she doesn’t like sports, proposing during a ball game would reflect more on your interests and not hers. Give a moment of thought to what she would really enjoy the most. If you propose to her when the time is right, it will be far more likely that she’ll cherish the memory forever.

15. Make It Special
If you and your girlfriend share many interests, now is your chance to create a proposal plan that’s tailored to your strengths as a couple. People are getting more and more creative with their proposals these days, and everyone is sure to remember it if you propose to your girlfriend in a quirky way that shows off your individuality. Or, if you think a traditional approach would be more appropriate, you can simply change a few of the details so that it subtly reflects you and your partner’s personalities. Go with what your heart tells you is right, and a proposal really can be that perfect golden moment in both your lives.

With these great ideas you can definitely win her heart. So pull up your sleeves and walk up to her and say out what you have in your heart.